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I’ve been talking to this girl, Robin, for over a month now. She told me she had a bf last week and still wanted to be friends. We talk every day and are very close as friends. Robin’s best friend, Mya, told me that Robin found me very attractive and was going to break up with her bf to be with me before I started bringing up other women to her to make her jealous. I told Robin that I was upset that she had a new bf because I wanna be with her so I lied about talking to other women to make her jealous (stupid, I know but we all make mistakes). I explained to her that I wanted to be with her and didn’t know how to tell her because I knew she had a bf. Robin admitted that she got mad when I brought up other girls and long story short, we both know that we have feelings for one another now. We agreed that if things don’t work out with her and her boyfriend we’d be together. We are going out this weekend, AS FRIENDS, with my buddy and her best friend, Mya (something like a group date). I plan to pursue other women and if I find one I like work towards a relationship with her. I want to tell Robin that I don’t wanna pursue a friendship with her because I know that if I had a girlfriend I wouldn’t want her talking to a guy that she knew liked her and wanted to be with her. I wanna be a man and make it clear to her and tell her that I still wanna be there for her as a friend if her bf hurts her and she needs someone to talk about it with. At the same time I don’t want her calling me acting flirtatious with me when I get a new girlfriend. I feel that Robin is holding on to me and has given me the opportunity to compete with her boyfriend. That’s breaking my #1 rule with women. I wanna do the right thing and tell her that I’m stepping out of the picture to allow her and her bf to be happy. I feel that she views me as a friend right now because I told her how I feel and that she thinks that I’m always going to be around. I think she has some feelings for me only because she is physically attracted to me. She let me know that we may have a future together but at the same time she is all over her boyfriend. Common sense tells me that when I walk away, IF she really cares for me in the way that I want her to, she’ll break up with him and chase me. Am I on the right track? I don’t want a girl with low interest. If I pursue other females I’ll lose a little interest in her and naturally become less available to her. Women want what they can’t have and miss what they treasure. She obviously sees something in me to be keeping around like this. I strongly feel that if I stop chasing her and attract her I can’t lose her. I want to make the right decisions now while she has some level of interest. Does anyone have a better plan?