im 17 and my bf’s 20. I can tell that he does love me alot and cares for me.like when im sick, he’ll visit me right after he’s booked out of camp (he’s in the army) and after that, he’ll call me just to make sure that i sleep early cause he knows i like sleeping in the wee hours in the morning.he has also brought me to see his family and cousins (they all like me, especially his mom) and he refers to me as his ‘wife’ and pampers me, buys me lots of stuff and spends alot on me even though he’s not earning much and i told him not to,visits me in school whenever he books out of camp,creating a bank account for me,making plans for our future like saving up to buy a house for us,further his studies so he can give me a better life even though he hates studying, etc, etc. to put it in short, he treats me practically as if im ALREADY married to him when im not.and i know he really loves and cares for me. and because of that, he wants to make love to me too.he says that he wants to share that special joy with me and since we’re both virgins,he wants to ‘tie’ me down so no one can snatch me away (fyi: his ex once cheated on him with his friend for sex before and he hasnt been in a relationship for 5 years ever since so i guess he has a phobia now). he’s been waiting for it for almost a year now since we got together and he knows my views on sexuality.i treasure my virginity alot and i see love-making as a gift that only people who really love and trust each other can share,sex can either make or a break a relationship as once u do it, u may get addicted and before you know it, it might dominate your relationship and all the meaningful things that both of u used to share will be lost in lust.im afraid that we’ll lose our meaningful relationship to our addiction to sex. besides that, i think he’s planning to propose to me this new year for engagement.the thing is,even though i have mutual feelings for him, as in i love him equally much, i don’t know if im ready to make this decision. even though i wanna spend the rest of my life with him, im having second thoughts.you see i have this medical condition called epilepsy, and my meds cost alot for each month, and sometimes i just wonder if he can support my expenses in the future if we do get married, especially when he doesnt want me to work and the army pays really little in my country, he has signed on for 5 years in the army and maybe planning to continue his career in the army for the rest of his life.I dont want to be a burden to him if he has to work so hard just to support me.i’ve tried asking him abt his opinions on me working after we get married (we’ve discussed abt marriage) but he’s not so into that idea. another thing, even though he cares for me,i dont know if he loves me for who i TRULY am, cos each time he misses me,and i ask him what he misses abt me, its always my face and my smile.
do you think what he’s asking for is reasonable? both the love-making and the proposal? i know it really depends but i just wanna ask for opinions.i want to make an informed decision before going into these things.
P.S: even though my mom does think he’s a nice guy, my parents are not too much for our relationship cause they think im too young for dating. and they limit my time to seeing him for 6 hrs in 2 weeks.they recently found out that i’ve been seeing him when i told them.
