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I would like an easy answer to a complicated question. Here is some background. I am sure I will confuse some people with it. My GF and I have been dating for over a year. She has no intentions of getting married or living with a man. She lives with her unemployed brothers, veterans who collect disability and live at home. Her parents have passed away and she is the bread winner of the family. If she were to get married or move out of the family home to live with a guy, the two brothers could not pay the bills and the family home would go under.
So I am dating a woman who has no intentions of marrying nor living with me-ever.
However, she is constantly garnishing information about my income and economic status things such as my prospects on a new place to live.
I now live in a family duplex with my parents as the landlords. My mother is the landlord. Though I wanted to pay what the last tennant paid when I moved in, she has not gone up on the rent since I moved in 10 years ago. But living in a duplex I am covering the rest of the expenses of half of a house, including oil heat payments, and there is no family discount there.
I work as an on call sales associate at a department store and I am starting my own business. Every week, every day, my GF will ask me where I am working, my hours at the store, if I see clients for my business, how many, how often, and where. Last year when I was getting my taxes prepared by a CPA, she wanted to know what I made for an income at my business and how many clients I had seen for the year. Seems very nosey for someone who has no intentions of sharing expenses with me living with me.
I am looking at studio and one bedroom apartments. It is going to be a challenge to reduce my stuff from spread out over half of a house and two floors to living in a 1BR or studio.
I had seen a studio that I liked and the price was right. I hesitated and another renter took it. But before that happened, I shared this with my GF. She then shared it with one of her girlfriends. The girls were discussing this prospect of me moving in to a studio. “Isn’t he further along in his career,” said this woman to my GF ” That he could afford something better than a studio apartment?” Then my GF made some remarks about how a studio is a place where a college kid would live.
We are living in a recession and many people are living with their families to reduce. Many folks do not work at all, including my GF’s brothers. I find it kind of strange that my girlfriend, who has no intentions of moving in with me, should be sharing this information with her friends as if she is sizing me up for something.
I asked a female coworker about this at the store where I work. She said “maybe she’s a gold digger. She’s probably looking to move in to your place with her two deadbeat brothers that don’t work at all.”
Why would a woman who has told me that she is content to date but not marry or live with me be so concerned about how much money I make and the type of housing I have? Do you think she might have something to hide?