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I am 23, male. I have been studied science in an Australian university for 1 year. My parents want me to be a biological scientist but I am not interested in science at all. I didn’t do well and finaIly I droped out from the course . My university counsellor suggest me to go back to Hong Kong (my hometown) and discover my own interest before I go back to study in Australia. Back in Hong Kong, I am living with my parents and I share the rent with them. The rent is about US$ 900 per month. Dad, mum and I pay US$300 each. My 20-year-old younger sister lives with us as well.However, she doen’t pay anything.

Recently all my family members suspect I am gay. They ask , ” I’m sure that you drop out from your science course because you are homosexual. Ewww! Everyday they say unplesant things to me ( e.g. I hate you so much, I’ll never forgive you, You should turn back to heterosexual, I wanna beat you up because you are gay, All gay men are worse than sh*t, including you ) I face their bad words everyday in addition to having an academic failure, I went back to my room and closed the door and cried. Then sister say I am not allowed to close my room’s door. ” You need to have your room door opened all the time, including when you are crying. What’s the point of closing the d*mn door? Have you ever considered my feelings?You know what? I have been tolerated your gayness for a while!” My parents are always on her side. They say” Listen to *your sister, you f*ggot” My parents also say ” Why can’t you get along with us well? If you can’t get along with us well, it means you can’t get along with your schoolmates and colleagues as well. You are a big loser !” My sister, who is studying to be a counsellor, says ” Why are you so defensive about yourself? Why don’t you loosen up yourself and date women?
” I replied “I have tried to date a girl for 3 months. But finally I’ve found that it doesn’t work. I don’t want to cheat the girl and say “I am straight” anymore. I don’t want to hurt the girl. We broke up. ” I added ” I am proud of being gay”. My sister replied , ” You’re so defensive about your homosexuality therefore no counsellor on Earth can help you. ”

I also said , ” I dropped out from science course because I have no interest in it at all. Mum, My dream is to be an successful accountant, not a scientist .”

Question 1) Which one do you think is better? Get my accounting degree in Australia or stay in Hong Kong ? My mum said ” If you study full-time in Australia for years , in other words you fagg0t lose 3 years of work experience. As a result, No one will hire you fagg0t as an accountant after three years” However, I really wanna go to Australia , do my favourite course and stay away my parents

Quetion 2) How do you think of my sister and my parents?

Question 3) My family says I can’t get along well with anyone if I can’t compromise with them? Do you think this is reasonable?

Question 4) My mum says I need to accompany her all the time when she needs to dine out. “If you treasure our mother-son relationship, then you must dine out with me. Otherwise, it means you think I am not important in your life. Even you have to work part-time, get a sick-leave and accompany me.I will turn you straight ” I refused and she said “F**k off, loser! ” I feel that I am a slave. Do I normal to feel this way?

Question 5) Am I suffering from depression now? Since my family gay-bashes me, I have never had good sleep at night. I have also lost my appetite. I always feel anxious when seeing my family members everyday. I even lose interest in collecting stamps( my hobbies) in my spare time.

Question 6) My family suggest me to do my accountant course in Hong Kong and live with them. “Even though you are able to financially support yourself in Australia, you should live with us and learn how to get along with us well.” I really wanna cried again! Can you give me suggestions?

thanks