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what should I do? my boyfriend rushes into things!?

im 17 and my bf’s 20. I can tell that he does love me alot and cares for me.like when im sick, he’ll visit me right after he’s booked out of camp (he’s in the army) and after that, he’ll call me just to make sure that i sleep early cause he knows i like sleeping in the wee hours in the morning.he has also brought me to see his family and cousins (they all like me, especially his mom) and he refers to me as his ‘wife’ and pampers me, buys me lots of stuff and spends alot on me even though he’s not earning much and i told him not to,visits me in school whenever he books out of camp,creating a bank account for me,making plans for our future like saving up to buy a house for us,further his studies so he can give me a better life even though he hates studying, etc, etc. to put it in short, he treats me practically as if im ALREADY married to him when im not.and i know he really loves and cares for me. and because of that, he wants to make love to me too.he says that he wants to share that special joy with me and since we’re both virgins,he wants to ‘tie’ me down so no one can snatch me away (fyi: his ex once cheated on him with his friend for sex before and he hasnt been in a relationship for 5 years ever since so i guess he has a phobia now). he’s been waiting for it for almost a year now since we got together and he knows my views on sexuality.i treasure my virginity alot and i see love-making as a gift that only people who really love and trust each other can share,sex can either make or a break a relationship as once u do it, u may get addicted and before you know it, it might dominate your relationship and all the meaningful things that both of u used to share will be lost in lust.im afraid that we’ll lose our meaningful relationship to our addiction to sex. besides that, i think he’s planning to propose to me this new year for engagement.the thing is,even though i have mutual feelings for him, as in i love him equally much, i don’t know if im ready to make this decision. even though i wanna spend the rest of my life with him, im having second thoughts.you see i have this medical condition called epilepsy, and my meds cost alot for each month, and sometimes i just wonder if he can support my expenses in the future if we do get married, especially when he doesnt want me to work and the army pays really little in my country, he has signed on for 5 years in the army and maybe planning to continue his career in the army for the rest of his life.I dont want to be a burden to him if he has to work so hard just to support me.i’ve tried asking him abt his opinions on me working after we get married (we’ve discussed abt marriage) but he’s not so into that idea. another thing, even though he cares for me,i dont know if he loves me for who i TRULY am, cos each time he misses me,and i ask him what he misses abt me, its always my face and my smile.

do you think what he’s asking for is reasonable? both the love-making and the proposal? i know it really depends but i just wanna ask for opinions.i want to make an informed decision before going into these things.

P.S: even though my mom does think he’s a nice guy, my parents are not too much for our relationship cause they think im too young for dating. and they limit my time to seeing him for 6 hrs in 2 weeks.they recently found out that i’ve been seeing him when i told them.

Shoulder rotator cuff injury?

I metal detect as a hobby. Started in April 2010. One of the tools I use is a pin point probe. The probe is holstered on my belt. To get it out I have to lift my right (non dominant) arm very high….imagine pointing your elbow towards the sky. That is how high I hade to lift that arm. Two weeks ago I started having a sharp pain in my right shoulder (front top side) when I try to move that arm across my body. In the shower it is hard for me to wash my left side with my right arm because of the pain. It also hurts at night when I try to sleep on the right sholder. Other than that I can use that arm normally. Out to the side, overhead, etc….. There is no swelling or constant pain.
BTW I still hunt (detect) because I swing the machine with my left arm which is fine. Plus I moved the probe to a much better lower position.
Any thoughts are welcomed. Thanks.

Cop pulls you over and walks up to your window and……..?

he says “license and registration” and the driver responds “was I doing something wrong?” the cops then says “I NEED YOUR LICENSE AND REGISTRATION, AND FOR YOU TO KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT UNLESS I ASK YOU SOMETHING” after giving this to him he goes back to his car, and after 5 minutes returns and says “step out of the vehicle” and you ask “Can you please tell me what the problem is?” the cop responds “You sure don’t know when to shut up do you?” and yanks the man to the side and frisks him. He cuffs the guy tells him to sit on the curb. The officer then starts to search the vehicle. After finding nothing, the cop comes over and yanks the man up, causing his wrists to bleed, and shoves him against the vehicle, and says “What are you doing out at 2 AM? “the guys says he was going home from the hospital because his wife gave birth 20 hours ago to get some sleep” The cops says “that’s crap, now I am going to give you one last chance before your head puts a thousand dollar dent in your yuppie beemer” the guy then says to look on his dash where there is a parking tab from the ****** memorial hospital with the date and time being 16 minutes ago. The cop looks at it and says “this means s*** to me, and shoves his head onto the hood holding his head on the freezing metal. 2 minutes later another cop car shows up with a dog…they search the car with the dog and the dog never barks, sits, or shows any signs of detecting anything. The cop comes back and says “the dog is smarter than you” then puts him into the back seat of his cruiser and takes him “downtown” where he is booked. He asks the lady what he is being charged with, and she says possession and intent to distribute a controlled substance. He spends the night in jail, and does not get a phone call. By 1PM the next day an officer comes to get him and says he can get a cab and go to ******** and pay a $200 fee for towing and he is free to go with a speeding ticket. the guys says “that is impossible I was pulled over 100 feet on the interstate onraon-rampcould no way be doing 85 MPH in 100 feet!”

This was a friend of mine and I am thinking he has a lawsuit on his hands for taking him away from his wife in the hospital, costing him another $7000 for another nigh there, never asked him about searching his vehicle, he has NEVER done drugs, and was never read his rights after even being refused knowknowledge what he was being charged with. According to my friend this bitterness started when the officer saw a picture of him and his wife. She is a blonde and white, he is black, graduated from MIT and an engineer for a major “Texas Instrument” corporation.

What do you think?
1. He definitely has a lawsuit, and had no right to do this, and this fake cop wannabe should lose his job.
2. This shouldn’t have happened, but mistakes happen, let it be
3. He married a white woman, and knew the risks in society going in. So what if he didn’t get his rights read, it’s not like we don’t all know them? Police have the right to do whatever they need to…If you aren’t doing anything wrong, what do you have to worry about??
4. War on drugs means we need to be proactive. Expensive car and black man at 2 AM? Hello, he’s working the streets, not to mention most don’t even legally own a BMW. Face the facts, drug dealers are 90% black, so this makes perfect sense, and the cop is a hero for keeping us safe from them.

Which answer would you choose. (FYI These are some of the responses I have received when I asked about 25 people at work who do not know him)
I think you missed the part about this being an actual situation, not some creative writing. I feel sorry for you that you think you know everything, because I’m sure every around you must role their eyes when you walk in. “oh great, here comes mr. know-it-all” For the other person, yes he was still in visiting hours which are 24 hours for the father. They even have make-shift beds in that hospital which I know because 1 year later I was there for my son. He was allowed to be with her all night, but because she was being discharged at noon the next day, he went home to get their other car which had the car seat and get a few hours sleep. (those couchbeds are HORRIBLE) So once she was asleep he left. The cop saw the photo of his wife because he handed it accidentally with his license which is was stuck to. The 90% thing, and all of those options where opinions from the 25 people I work with whom I told them about this. FYI, he did sue, he won settlement, and 2 cops were suspended.

How can I get my cat to entertain herself while I am gone?

I adopted a 5 month old kitten about 2 weeks ago, and she is the sweetest thing ever! I am worried, though, because I don’t think she does anything (except sleep) while I’m at work. I have tried everything I can think of–bought many toys, hung bouncy things from the ceiling, tried to play “treasure hunt” with her by hiding toys and treats around the house (she didn’t even search while I was at work), gotten a cat condo, left the TV on animal planet, cut holes into a box and put wads of paper in it, left paper bags out for her to play with, etc. etc. etc. Nothing I do seems to entertain her! When I am at home, she only loves chasing a shoelace around. I am worried because I want her to be semi-self sufficient, and to be able to entertain herself so she’s not bored all day long. I cannot get another kitten for her to play with. What more can I do?

Sleep Train Amphitheatre security?

Does anyone know what kind of security they use? I wanna sneak a camera into the warped tour concert but I’ve no idea if they use metal detectors. D: